Dating and 40 s

31 Oct

Whether you are engaging in online dating or joining a group where you will meet people with similar interests, don’t wait for something to happen. Seek out people who interest you, with eye contact, a smile or a simple “hello” rather than waiting for them to choose you. Don’t waste time with people who don’t treat you well. Even if you are not interested, be kind and respectful to people who show an interest in you. Try to see your potential partner as a whole person, recognizing the things you find endearing as well as the ones you see as negative. You are beyond the confusion of your 20s and 30s and have clarified many of your major life values. Author of the recently released book, “Who Am I Without My Partner?

Recognize the power you have to be successful in your dating pursuits and use it. Not everything your date says or does will sit well with you. Take ownership of what is yours and communicate it honestly and directly. Those of you in your 40s and 50s are in a wonderful period of your lives.

People ask me all the time whether I offer dating and relationship coaching for single men. But I tell them that I help men by helping women who are dating after 40. ) One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men.

Perhaps it’s been a while since you’ve been “on the market”. You have made friends and let them go when they were not supportive. However, in some respects dating in your 40s and 50s is quite similar to dating in your 20s and 30s. She received her Master’s Degree from Columbia University and her Ph. You have to work hard to find someone you really want and really like – or, as one married male friend put it, “someone normal” (apparently normal men are in short supply).The search is a kind of journey, and along the way you tend to learn a few things about yourself, and about the society we live in. Everyone knows lots of fabulous single women in their 40s …but can’t think of any equally fabulous single men the same age. Don’t assume you and your partner see things in the same way or that your partner can read your mind. Moments will arise when your judgment about your partner will be put to the test. Like you, your partner is imperfect and deserves the benefit of the doubt. Keep in mind that a good relationship is based on each person’s ability to be supportive of those differences. It is not possible that your “I” and your partner’s “I” will be perfectly compatible.